Look before you click

The problem with facespazz, and all instant communication these days, is that when you forward or message your friends there is often the temptation to include everyone on your list.

Often these messages contain phrases like “I’m thinking of you”, “We’re friends forever”, “I love you” and so forth.

The question is: Are you really thinking of everyone on your contact list? Do you really love them? Are you friends FOREVER with everyone on your contact list? or are you just adding them there for convience?

Sometimes, the actions we do without thinking leads people in to believing something other than what is there exists, and they get the thinking of getting more out of the relationship. We need to be guarded by our actions and convey our feelings and thoughts correctly and truthfully, so we don’t hurt those we come into contact with because we’ve led them on (as unintentional as it is).

So the question I put to you: Do you really “love” the people you are sending these messages to? Are they really your friends forever? If so, then I envy you because you have way more true friends than I.

Ex-Mail

In this age of instant communication like e-mail, SMS and IM (MSN, Yahoo, AOL), it seems that we can often be too quick with what we are sending out. Also, the volume of messages that we send to people can be quite large. I’ve found myself sending 5 messages a day to some people, all on various topics.

So now I’m very tempted to go back to writing letters. I think that the old ’snail-mail’ makes you really think about what you are saying. You tend to take more time to write them and thus put more effort into what you are saying.

This makes your communication more personal, more profound and makes you really mean what you are saying.

So, if you receive a snail mail from me, it probably means that I’ve put some effort into it.

Very poorly done

As most of you know, I’ve taken a recent interest in watching Jane Austen movies. I know that some of my male friends have ridiculed me but I don’t really care. What is wrong with deciding to become cultural (or even trying to understand how women think)?In the most part I do actually enjoy them. Having seen Pride and Prejudice (both movie and BBC series), Sense and Sensibility and recently Emma. I’m not going to say I’m an expert. It’ll take years before I start reciting phrases like some people do.

Anyway, I have had some thoughts about how different life is now to back in Miss Austen’s time.

1) Relationships between men and women were much less complicated. It is obvious that there is a line that one must not cross unless wanting to take the relationship further, today that line is hard to find. The upside, people knew when you were interested in each other.

2) Men and women showed proper respect to one another. Bowing when one walks into a room should be brought back. Calling people Mr Darcy and Miss Bennett, now that should be brought back.

3) Marriages generally lasted. Not alot complicates a couple to force them to hate each other.

4) Parents are still as overburdening as ever.

5) Everyone knew where they stood.

These are just my thoughts. Now I just wait to be heckled huh? But seriously guys, I do recommend you watch at least one of these, you’ll never know, you might like them.

Beauty divine.

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to lose weight. Last year I knocked off a few kilos and I am to double that this year.

So, I’ve made some changes to my diet and have resolved to walk during my lunch break. The hills around work are pretty steep and I can walk different ways each time. Last week I managed two walks. The first about 2.4 km and the second about 3.4 km. I actually felt really good after these.

As part of this new regime, I decided I’d watch ‘The Biggest Loser‘. Mainly for inspiration and any other hints I can pick up. That being said, I don’t aim to torture myself for four months and vote myself out if I fail one week. On the downside I’m not in the running to win $200,000.

So tonight’s episode was the first of the new series. It mainly consisted of 30 very overweight people baring their souls about how unhappy they are about being fat, some really concerned about having an heart attack, and the trainers trying to give them a heart attack just so they can be selected for the show. At least the trainers were honest, they wanted to see blood, sweat, tears and vomit within the first five minutes. They got it.

Whilst I can sympathise with the participants, their reasons for being on the show did seem overly rehearsed.

A couple of things that concerned me were some of the reasons for losing weight. A couple of the female participants stated that they were on the show because they hadn’t had a steady relationship and the only reason for this was because of their appearance. Yes some of these girls are overweight but they aren’t ugly. A couple were reasonably attractive.

This is the problem with todays world. The age of everyone being plastic. It beggers belief that these girls had never had a boyfriend. Are their standards to high? Are all men focussed on the super-model image? What is wrong with the old adage that beauty is on the inside?

Just because someone looks good on the outside doesn’t mean they are good on the inside.  The same goes the other way.

Thankfully God doesn’t think the same way as us. He knows our heart. He knows what we are really like on the inside. That is why his choice is generally different to man’s choice. Look at Abraham, Moses, David and Jesus. Men wouldn’t have chosen these to lead them but God chose them to lead us.

Look on the inside, they is where true beauty is.